We live in “selfie” world, where it feels like so much around us is influenced by social media. Don’t get me wrong—I love it—I love to see beautiful people with their beautiful spirits in lifestyle, fashion & entertainment. I am inspired by style feeds and go-getters and trends….and I’m even a little envious that they make it look so effortless. I mean, am I the only Mama who loves to be in her yoga pants and a baseball cap 24/7?? Then I turn to my own feed and social media platforms and I find myself very sensitive to others and what others think.. We have the most loving, supporting fans but we also have the negative judgemental “trolls” that like to judge and tear down. When I do my own posts, photo shoots & even selfies I sometimes feel…self-indulgent. I don’t want anybody to think I’m portraying perfection or trying to be something I’m not.
I can’t help but wonder: when is confidence considered prideful? And how can we use humility to glorify God? I think we start to slide into a prideful place when we take the credit for any blessing; whether it be career, fitness, all of the vain stuff or even financial gains. Knowing that everything is a gift from God and THANKING Him for His blessings and giving Him the glory keeps the focus where it should be.
“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time.” –1 Peter 5:6
Confidence is a posture of our heart (towards God). What I mean is that our confidence defines the state or condition of our heart. When we root our identity in Christ rather than the material things, it keeps us God-focused.
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” –1 Peter 3:3-4
Back to my own struggle, this past spring, it got to the point where I began to feel so uncomfortable doing photo shoots because I was worried I was coming across as vain and I felt self-conscious. I can look back and know that it wasn’t true, but I was having a very hard time finding the balance between confidence in God and in the gifts He has blessed me with and my own self-confidence. I’m still trying to find that balance. It’s so easy to get caught up in worldly things…but I have to remember to put confidence in God verses confidence in myself. I find freedom and peace in not relying on myself; not relying on my own strength but rather God’s strength.
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”
I am so attracted to people who are humble. It is a beautiful and raw quality that makes my spirit connect with them because they are real. I think the fruits of the spirit shine through people when they are humble, when they give the glory and honor to God.
A few weeks ago I asked you to do an exercise where you opened your hands up to release control over to God and be available to receive His blessings. If we surrender the unfinished places in our lives, our confidence is transferred to Christ and we won’t have to do it by ourselves. I’ll leave you with one of my favorites:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” –Colossians 3:12